My last post was about not being afraid to say yes to sex due to social stigmas attached to expressing sexuality. So I found it important that this post be about not being afraid of saying no to sex.
There is a lot of pressure to have sex as a young adult. The media sends constant messages of how sex is the “it” thing to do, that everyone does it, and everyone needs to do it. You might even feel pressure from your peers to do it, but sex is a personal matter and it’s really no ones business but your own. While sex is healthy and natural, there is no reason for anyone to do it unless they want to, and they are ready to do it.
You should only have sex when you’re ready. If you want to wait until you find the right person, cool! If you want to wait until marriage, that’s also cool! Do what you want! There is nothing wrong with waiting!
The same applies to people who have already had sex. You don’t want to have sex after a date? That’s fine, you shouldn’t feel pressured to do so. Even if you have a boyfriend, you shouldn’t feel as if you need to have sex in order to keep the relationship going strong. There are plenty of other ways to be intimate with someone without being sexual, so there’s no reason to feel as though sex is the be-all-end-all of life.
When it comes to sex, the rules are the same for everyone, in every situation: DO WHAT YOU WANT! Just make sure you’re safe, and that you and your partner are on the same page.
Until next time!